Anonymous asks: You’ve let it be known several times that you suffer from depression, anxiety, and identify yourself as a loser…which I can totally identify with. The difference is, I’ve also heard you mention having had girlfriends. I was wondering: how have you been able to get over your issues and been able to find a partner?
By working hard to overcome my bullshit, by being open and honest about it in a way that shows me to be a vulnerable and interesting human being with stories of his past he’s willing to share and make funny, and by forcing myself to not let my depression and self-esteem issues control me.
I put myself out there. Just like TCGS, sometimes I fail, but I always try.
I also am a good talker and can flirt like a motherfucker. That’s just natural skills I was born with that I’ve strengthened over time.
THE MAIN THINGS THOUGH -
1) Buy some fucking clothes that fit. I recommend getting fitted by a wardrobe assistant at J CREW AND FEELING REAL GOOD ABOUT IT.
2) DANCE - girls love dancing. Most guys don’t. If you decide you enjoy dancing, even if you don’t and you’re not good at it, ladies will fucking love you. This is not a bit. I’m not good at dancing at all, but the first time I kissed my future wife was on a dance floor. Dance, for real. She is a professional dancer. I hate and fear dancing and am bad at it. Regardless, she enjoys that I enjoy dancing, and now I get to marry a cool and beautiful lady.
Dance. Dance through your depression and you will win the lady of your dreams.
Girls want to dance with boys, and most boys don’t dance or don’t enjoy it. Just throw your arms and hips around and have fun and girls will fucking love you for it. They will come over to you and start dancing as long as you have fun and smile and choose to not be self- conscious. For real. It works. During my single days, I was once at a concert at SxSw where a Latin pop band was playing and I danced like an idiot and two pretty Columbian girls converged on me and did booty dancing with me. I am an uncoordinated gringo and I dance like it. They just wanted to have fun and no other guys were dancing as fun as I was. Not as well as I was. As fun as I was.
That’s the number one advice I can give nerds and losers about wooing women. Get over yourself, give yourself an advantage, and shake that ass.